Do you feel like you’re wearing an Edgar suit?

Are you figuratively itchy all day and exhausted at the end of it?

Do you consider yourself an alien, robot, or zombie or maybe even a combination of them?

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    Alien

    When it feels like you don’t belong in the room because so little of the action is recognizable or desirable.

    You only see part of the playbook the folks around you use to guide their words and actions.

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    Robot

    When it feels like all you do is follow the directions you’ve created to try and fit into a world that’s fluid and arbitrary.

    You follow the script for living you’ve managed to cobble together, and yet, don’t feel quite alive.

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    Zombie

    When it feels like you shamble through life, wrung out by the effort it takes to appear normal.

    You're going through the motions, banking on the promise that tomorrow will be better. Somehow.

My doors are open wide for those who don’t fit the mold of “normal.”

However you walk in the world in terms of neurological experiences and expression, gender identification, sexual identification, spiritual practice (or the absence of one), and ethnicity, I will meet you with humility and the belief that you are the best person to choose what works for you.

The experience of feeling like an alien, robot, or zombie grew out of the practical, beautiful ways we adapted to keep ourselves attached to caregivers and community.

We live each day exhausted because we spend unseen effort supporting ourselves through a world that expects a narrow range of behavior that contradicts parts of our very nature.

We balk at the idea of authenticity because we’ve already paid too high a price for just being ourselves when others found us too much or not enough.

The push-pull between surviving and feeling whole is a real pain in the ass.

And,

When we connect with folks who allow us to show up messy, hurting, and adrift, we allow them to support us.

In doing so, we begin living from wholeness and can start revealing more of our facets to the world.

It sounds like a pipe dream.

Even to me some days, and I live it on the daily.

“Kelli exudes empathy and awareness, making you feel seen and heard.  I would recommend her to anyone looking for a safe, non-judgmental coach to work with them on their healing journey!” - Toni

Today, I walk with folks willing to accept company as they reclaim parts of themselves that have been tucked away so they act from wholeness, being fully themselves out loud.

A typical conversation begins with what’s alive for you or what challenges you’ve been facing that you want to debrief. From there I offer an outsider’s perspective, suggest alternate ways forward, and ask pokey questions.

Within our relationship, you can show up strident, messy, or odd, expecting to heard, validated, and witnessed.

Being held allows you to face the vagaries of life anchored in the belief that you are not alone.

Think of me like a walking stick, available to steady you or bear a part of your weight as you navigate how you want to walk in an inhospitable world.

My support complements the middle sections of the journey between crisis and thriving where there’s enough energetic capacity to do the intentional work of becoming.

My support works best for folks who are either already seeing a therapist or counselor or those who have the stability to do the work.

“I was truly amazed by [Kelli’s] compassion, expertise, and dedication to helping survivors of trauma heal and release shame. Kelli's training is evident in every interaction with her. She exudes empathy and awareness, making you feel seen and heard.” ~ Toni L.

The path toward wholeness rambles and leads each of us through the terrain we need. While I don’t have a program, I do work from a framework and you can find out more about that here.

If you’re ready to dive right in you can schedule an inquiry call here.

And, if you’re curious and hesitant to start something with an unknown entity, you want to get a better sense of who I am and how I see the world here.

Experiencing being seen and believed as my version of an alien-robot-zombie (yep, i’ve been blessed with all three) gave me the grounding I needed to step into all of the odd bits of who I am. These days that includes leading with my persnicketiness about language and my love of systems.

I come to the conversation as peer, not a clinician. I won’t diagnose you or prescribe medication because I’m neither qualified or interested in doing so.

I carry a deep faith that supportive peer relationships create opportunities for desired change.

I'm someone who has traveled a version of this path, with enough education and experience to ask the pokey questions, and enough steadiness to stay in the room while you do the hard work.

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    An hour to bring what's on your mind and be heard without being fixed. You bring whatever's active. I bring attention, lived experience, and questions that go somewhere.
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